I was just re-watching a Tea Talk video from Nikki Phillippi where she spoke with Instagram sensation, Tifforelie, about how to find hope even in the midst of frequent pain or hardships. You can watch the video here, if you’re interested.
Tiffany described her own hardships with careers, marriage, and finding her passion. I have not been through the experiences that Tiffany has but I have been feeling frustrated with my own circumstances lately. I understand how important outlook can be in inspiring personal change, betterment, or good fortune. Thus, the discussion in the Tea Talk is a welcome source of inspiration. I felt I could relate to a couple of points discussed in the video. In fact, by the end of it, I was so grateful to hear that they, and others in the comments, share my same thoughts. What particularly struck my interest was how Tiffany mentioned that she used to look at someone under hard times with judgmental eyes. She would offer pity rather than optimism or hope to lift the person up.
I think instances of pain—especially pain that is unfamiliar to us—often receive that sort of reaction. It feels almost instinctive to extend sympathy but that is not the kind of reaction I would want to receive. Nor is it how I want to look at others.
The Tea Talk video gave me a lot of nice ideas to consider. It all goes back to that saying, “treat others the way you want to be treated”. Except…TIffany’s way of thinking advocates for extending hope and positive vibes by thinking positively of someone else. Not just so that someone else will think kindly of you, but, to extend hope and positive vibes into the universe. There is a deeper understanding of others, and ourselves for that matter, that we can tap into if we try. I feel encouraged to reframe my perspective and think less critically about how others may be living their lives. There is no reason to fill myself with negative thoughts of others or to waste time creating them.
A quote by Roald Dahl sums it up pretty well: